Life is a series of events – things that change, align, distance themselves and realign each and every day. You probably have a vague idea of what the day holds for you when you wake up in the morning, but, in reality, that idea can quickly be blown out of the water. Truth be told, you have the power to direct your life in whatever direction you want to take it in.
Change your thoughts and your entire world can be turned upside down – for better or for worse. All it takes you is the ability to examine your perception and subsequent wants and needs. The real power lies in your mind – your thoughts. But what if some of those thoughts were more important – dare I say, influential – than others?
There are just some thoughts and ideas that have the ability to make or break you. It isn’t some big secret – rather, think of it as a key to learning and growing as an individual. By knowing and accepting a few simple thoughts, you can totally change your attitude about life.
As I said, it’s not a big secret. They are actually relatively straightforward. But these 12 thoughts can change your life today:
We are habitual creatures. Most of us like to have a sense of routine in our days. Something predictable. Something we know.
Think of it this way – you wake up in the morning, probably at a similar time every day. Autopilot kicks in and you swiftly move from your shower to the coffee maker, getting out of the door at 8 a.m. sharp. You’re good at being punctual, because this is your morning routine. This is your daily habit.
Now, those actions are pretty good for you. After all, they DO get you to work on time (usually), don’t they? But what happens when you are stuck with daily habits that are harmful?
You probably don’t even realize you are doing anything wrong. You’re just living the way you always have, without a thought on how to improve your situation. You may even think that what you’re doing is right, when it’s actually putting you 10 steps back. That’s the scary part.
The good thing is that you do have the ability to change these habits. Nothing is ever set in stone. It’s up to you to live your life the way you want to. No one else will do it for you.
Habits are what we build our day-to-day lives on. They support us when we are up and hurt us when we are down. That’s why it’s so important to identify and correct bad habits early on – before they snowball out of control. And that process begins with recognizing the problem. Here are 12 bad habits that hurt you daily, whether you realize it or not:
It happens so easily. All of the sudden you sit there and say, “What happened to my life? Where did I go wrong?” While you’re not inconsolably upset, you aren’t happy. You know you need change, but don’t even know where to begin. It’s a tough situation to be in.
You’ve probably found yourself in this scenario at one point or another in your life. Everything seems bland. Each day fades into the next. You are pretty much just waiting eagerly for everything to be finished at the end of the day. You glide effortlessly from one thing to the next – and that’s not necessarily a good thing. And the cycle repeats itself again and again. That’s no way to live.
Getting stuck in this mode of thinking can be dangerous for ourselves and our lives. You say you hate your job, but are still working in the same position. You say you want to move somewhere else, but are still in the same town. You say that you want to achieve big goals, but never take the actual steps to get there. You’re just stuck in the same place you were a year – or five years – ago. These steps require change – change in your attitude, outlook and communication – but you still aren’t doing anything different. Because, well, change can be pretty scary. But there comes a point when it is no longer an option – it’s a requirement.
The need for a drastic change can be caused by one big life-altering event or a succession of tiny events compounded together. Whatever the catalyst is, the commonality is that change needs to occur. But this isn’t always so clear-cut. What do you do if you think you are on the brink of something big, but don’t know if you need to take the leap yet? Check out these 4 signs you need a drastic change in your life:
Success comes in many forms. What you consider success may not be someone else’s standard or visa versa. It depends on personal perspective and experiences. It depends on what you want out of life. It depends on you.
Becoming a CEO may be your idea of success, but not someone else’s. Similarly, your idea of success may be finding true happiness. That may not be what another person wants. Everyone is different. And that’s okay. You just need to know what success means to you. You need to know what you want out of your life.
With that being said, there are a few commonalities that can help you achieve success, regardless of what exactly you looking to accomplish. Obviously, you need to remain committed, work hard and put your absolute best foot forward all of the time. Success is built on your ability and willingness. It’s about you and your drive and determination. As I said before, it depends wholly on you.
But, there are also a few other strategies you may not even think of at first thought. And those are the things that can make or break your success. These 8 strategies can help you achieve success today:
The notorious rut. We’ve all been there, some for longer than others. Life seems to be on the repeat button, day in and day out. You have a hard time forcing yourself out of the routine you’ve come to know – the life you’ve come to know. Somehow, you are still drawn back to the comfort and stability that the rut provides. You know it’s safe there.
Deep inside you know you are missing out on something and that you are capable of something bigger. You know you can do better. Still, you are completely unable to pull yourself out of this tiresome, uninteresting situation. Every day blends together. You have ideas for your future, but no tangible way to execute them into reality. What do you do?
You must first understand and accept that you are, in fact, living in a perpetual state of suspension – suspension between your past and future, what you have and what you want. While stuck in that state of suspension, you literally cannot move anywhere – backwards or forwards. You’re just stuck where you currently are. No progress. Nothing.
Once you really know that you are stuck in a rut, you can begin to take steps to rectify your situation. All it takes is a commitment to change for the future and little deviations from your routine and mindset each and every day. Not sure if you are stuck? Check out these 9 reasons you are currently stuck in a rut:
Have you ever found yourself not being able to recall what was said after leaving a conversation with a friend or a class lecture? I know I have. Although most of us have the ability to hear, it takes added effort to truly listen. Here is a list of the main perpetrators that prevent us from listening meaningfully and how to avoid them:
Each of us daydreams. Unfortunately, it doesn’t take much to set off a daydream—especially when we need to be listening. A friend can be telling you about her horrible day at work when she mentions a word that triggers a memory or a thought that sends you spiraling down a daydreaming black hole. “It was an oven in there,” she says, and you can’t remember whether or not you shut the oven off or locked the door or fed the dog or…wait, what did she just say about her boss?
Maybe you always feel a little down. Or perhaps you just aren’t enjoying life. It could be a fleeting feeling or something you’ve felt for a while. Unfortunately, misery is all around us. It’s easy to get swept up into its powers. Almost everyone you know probably participates in some meaningless activity that is actually, and usually unknowingly, dragging them further and further away from true happiness and contentment.
We all do small things each and every day that make us really miserable. I’d say 99 percent of the time we either don’t realize what we are doing or don’t understand its effect. We just keep moving along. We just keep living the same way. In the back of our minds, we know these things are hurting, not helping, us. Yet we still seem to do them day in and day out. We continue to move forward in our lives and don’t realize that we are hurting ourselves as often as we are taking in a breath of air.
It doesn’t have to be that way. Individually, each of these little things aren’t too bad. But, they rarely exist alone. It takes mental willpower and conscious living to overcome these barriers to happiness. It takes determination and willpower. You have to be the one to take control and make choices. No one is going to do it for you.
The good news is you can begin to move misery out of your life today. All it takes is the ability to make mindful decisions and see what’s really, truly best for you. Before you take steps to move misery out of your life, you must know the little triggers that cause it in the first place. Check out these 12 inadvertent ways you are making yourself miserable: